The third role
Become an aunt.
The aunt is the person the other platforms forgot. She takes the background, does the asking, makes the introduction and stays for the settling. If you are a married woman with a steady head, this role is yours to apply for.
Who may serve
The one firm requirement.
An aunt must be a married woman. Widows are welcome - a widow is a married woman. That is the standard, and it is not negotiable.
You take the background
Lineage, faith, temperament, the real household - asked with care, in conversation.
You keep confidences
What is private stays private. Income and assets are held until the right moment.
You stay for the settling
You do not leave at the introduction. You guide the pair through the early days.
Every aunt is vetted and trained for the role before she carries anyone. The first aunts are chosen personally.
Your assignment
The question a form cannot ask.
Temperament. What a person does when they are angry.
Two people can match on faith, on totem, on work, on what they want from a home - and still be wrong for each other, because nobody asked how they behave when they are crossed. It is the thing that shows up late, on the first real day, and by then the time is already spent.
So we do not put it on the form. Nobody ticks I sulk for three days. It is yours to ask, in conversation, the way an aunt has always asked it: what do you do when you get angry? Who raised you, and how did they handle a disagreement? Have you ever walked out on someone mid-sentence? You are not scoring them. You are listening for what a suitor deserves to know before they give up their evenings.
Then you say it plainly to the other side, in your own words. This is drama they can live with, or it is not. That judgement is the work.
What you earn
This is paid work.
An aunt is not a volunteer. Every introduction you make earns money, and your share is paid to you for the work you did.
You are paid for the introduction and the sit-down, never for a match - a match cannot be sold. The fee is carried by the man, who is the one choosing, so the woman never pays to be considered. Your exact share is set out in writing with you when you are taken on, and you will be told first, plainly, if it ever changes.